Talking about all the different parents, I am wondering which parent people would appreciate the most. For this question, think about whether the outcomes overweight the costs such as in a tiger mom, or if they don't.
Also, don't look at the word "appreciate" as in you feelings, look at it in the overall scheme of your early life.
For me, I would most rather have a tiger mom when I am in middle school, and then have my parents ease off as I entered high school (I don't have tiger parents, but they are pretty strict). This is because, early on I think it is important to get your child to understand the importance of grades, but later, I would prefer less monitoring of my schoolwork by my parents because it will help me become more individualistic earlier and give me an advantage in college, where I will be responsible to do everything on my own, without parental help or guidance.
What would you guys pick?
I think I would prefer one tiger parent while the other is more laid-back and that they remain like this all throughout middle school and high school. I believe this balances out the stress that could potentially come from having both parents be tiger parents. I think this would help me be successful and help me maintain my grades while knowing how to relax but not slack.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Alee that having one tiger parent and one more laid-back parent is good because they would balance each other out and you would not be as stressed but still do well in school.
ReplyDeleteI think my parents provide a healthy balance - my dad is a typical immigrant from a South Asian country who highly values education and academic pursuit, while my mom is a typical New York Jewish mother, who tends to value personal relationships and health above academics. I think between the two of them, there's been an appropriate mix of pressure to push myself academically and also the need to stay happy and confident in myself.
ReplyDeleteVariety if good between two parents, however I think that the amount a "tiger mom" pushes should be limited. I can agree that it is useful to have someone constantly looking over your shoulder, but this is not something that can be provided forever. A child needs to be taught how to push themselves to set their own goals and maintain a healthy and successful lifestyle.
ReplyDeleteI like my mom currently the way she is. She's not much of a tiger mom, but she still expect me to do some things. She's not so hard on me, and she gives me freedom to do what I want. She doesn't care as much about what I do as long as I don't get into trouble, and if I do get into trouble, she doesn't want to be involve. I like this because it forces you to be more independent. If she's busy, she expects me to cook/buy my own meal. If I get into trouble, I am responsible to solve it myself.
ReplyDeleteI think having protective parents are the worst, and by that I mean really protective parents. They wouldn't want you to do anything on your own. Instead, they want to do it for you. Job? No way. You're too precious for that. They'll just let you live off their money. It sounds insane, but these parents do exist.